Hi, I'm Else Kosberg, also known to some people as The Female Life Designer.
This website is for YOU, the grown-up woman who wants to find a way to live your life unapologetically on your own terms, and you need inspiration and some good advice on how to make that happen. You have a certain idea about what it is that you want in life, but you don't really know how to make your dreams or ideas come to fruition.
I know how you feel. I've spent a lot of time trying to figure out what I want to do with my life, - how I can get the freedom I want, make a great livelihood for myself where I can do what I love when and where I want, and how I can create the lifestyle that I want for myself.
It's been a long and winding road, but even though there are still many things I wish were different in my life, I'm finally getting closer and closer to living my life in accordance with who I am and what I really want.
I'm on a wonderful journey which might never really end, but that's fine. Reaching goals often means setting new ones, and that's what makes life so exciting, isn't it?
As I move forward on my path, I believe my experiences can be of value to you in your search for what might be the ideal life for you. That's why I want to share these experiences with you now, through this blog and through my YouTube channel: The Female Life Designer Channel.
Let me first tell you a little bit about my journey up until this point:
After having spent most of my adult life trying to live according to what I felt other people expected of me, and not being true to who I really am, I reached a point where I just couldn't live like that anymore. So I made some tough decisions and sort of started my life from scratch again. Without going into any details right here, let me just say that I did what was necessary for me at that point, and part of that was divorcing my husband and moving to a new town. I struggled for quite a few years financially, with only part-time jobs or vacancies available and also a long period of unemployment, - but I found ways to cope and never gave up on my dreams of a better life for myself.
To cut a long story short: I eventually got a permanent full-time job and also found a system that helped me get control over my money, so eventually I could start focusing more and more on building the kind of life I've always pictured for myself.
I was happy to find a more permanent job after quite a few years of struggle, because I needed it to get a more balanced economy, but I always knew that being someone's employee was not what I wanted to do for the rest of my life. I wanted to be my own boss, and I did everything in my power to make that happen.
Earlier in my life I've had my own business two times over, so I've already had a taste of what it's like to be my own boss, and I love it! For several reasons, I decided to end both my previous businesses, because I felt there were more expenses than profit with them. There was also way too much stress involved, since they were both what you may call "brick and mortar" businesses. So some of what I learned from those 2 experiences was that I never want to have a brick and mortar business ever again. I want a business where I will use mainly my own expertise, knowledge, creativity and personal experiences, and I want it to be a business that I can run from anywhere in the world.
So how could I do that? I knew right away that I want to inspire, motivate and empower other women to create the life they truly want for themselves, but for a long time I didn't really know how. Eventually I decided that the obvious solution was to become a coach, and since I'd been working as a coach for quite a few years already, only as someone else's employee, I decided that this was what I needed to do.
That's why I've spent several years trying to build a coaching business online, but my heart hasn't been in it, and therefor it's never really come to anything. I've spent a lot of time (and money) educating myself - trying to learn all the things I've felt that I needed to learn in order to be successful online, - and it hasn't been wasted, I just ended up not using it for the kind of business I tried to build at the beginning.
It wasn't until I let go of all the "necessities" - all the "shoulds", all the "this is the wise thing to do if you want to succeed" kind of things, - that I found peace within myself. Yes, I have a lot of experience as a coach, and yes, I do want to help other women, - but there was always something about it that didn't feel right, didn't feel like me. My approach wasn't right. Being a life-coach in the normal sense of the word didn't feel right, and that's why all my efforts were nothing but half-hearted attempts to attract clients to my business. No wonder it never came to anything!
It wasn't until I understood that I have to be CREATIVE, - that I have to follow my heart and my passions and just do whatever it is that gives me JOY ... it wasn't until then that I found peace within myself about the whole thing.
So I decided that I just have to be me. I don't need to call myself a coach or anything at all. And I certainly don't need a degree to my name in order to share my knowledge and expertise and my life experiences with you. So instead of "Else Kosberg, MD" or something like that, I choose to call myself "Else Kosberg, ND" (as in "No Degree"). I do have an education as an Interior Decorator, and I've studied foreign languages (among other things), but more importanly: I have a degree in LIFE.
I've lived a long life already (I'm 58 as we speak), and I've been through a lot. I can list some of it for you, just to give you some examples: I've been a creative child, a teenager, a student, I've had many different jobs, I've been married, I've raised kids, I've had my own business (twice), I've been through the grief of losing people I loved (like my best friend who was murdered, another dear friend who died in a car crash, parents and relatives who have died ...), I've been through a divorce, I've struggled with money, and I've struggled with health issues like PCS (Post Concussion Syndrome) (which I'm still struggling with).
That was just me scratching the surface, but I'm sure you get an idea about what kind of experiences I've had in my life and why I can probably relate to some of what you might be going through or some of what you've experienced in your life. We're in this together, and I'll be more than happy to share my journey with you, good things and bad, without focusing on the past too much, but using it as a way of learning how to handle the here and now and to start making things better for ourselves.
As you look around this site, you'll find out more about the things I'm involved in, and I hope it will inspire you to be all that YOU can be. I also hope that it will help you understand that you don't have to do just ONE thing in your life. You're allowed to have more than one passion. It doesn't have to be "either - or", - you can do ALL the things you love, perhaps even use some of it to create a thriving business, if that's what you want, - or you can simply make the most out of your daily life without feeling guilty about it. Yes, it can be wise to focus on one thing and be really good at THAT, but if you're anything like me, you're just not put together that way. You easily get bored if you have to stick with one thing, - you need variation and you enjoy working on different projects and in different ways. And that's OK! There's absolutely nothing wrong with you! It's just the way you are.
If I, - simply by being ME, with all my flaws and facets, and sharing with you what I know, - can inspire and help YOU to live your life to the fullest (and also unapologetically on your own terms), - then my mission is completed. That's what I want: For you and me both to live our lives to the fullest and in complete harmony with who we are. For both of us to create our perfect lifestyle.
I do believe that financial freedom is important in order for you to have complete freedom of choice in life, so on The Free To Live Blog I do sometimes write about money. But I'm equally focused on the inner power that I believe you have, - the power to create the life you truly want. That's why I also write and talk a lot about how you can help yourself grow mentally and spiritually and in that way improve so many areas of your life. I believe it's all about mindset and about learning how to make your thoughts work in your favor.
But more that anything, what is really important to me, is that I want you to understand that you MUST be YOU. If you're living your life according to someone else's rules, or try to copy what someone else is doing, - you need to STOP that right now, because it's not good for you.
I know you probably find it hard sometimes to show your true self to other people, even to the people closest to you (family, friends, a partner...), - in fact: especially to the ones closest to you, - because there will always be a certain expectancy from people around you that you need to "fit in".
Like I said earlier: I can relate!
I don't have all the answers, and I can't point my finger in one direction for you and say: That's what you need to do. Because you are you and I am me. We're not exactly the same. You need to find YOUR path, - not copy what I do.
But we're probably more alike than we are different, since you're still here, and if I can inspire you to start living more in alignment with who you are, I have succeeded in what I set out to do.
I've realized that I need to be ME, and that I have a responsibility to myself (and to everyone else) to be all that I can be, and to SHOW it to the world. So that's what I'm trying to do, - with my blog, with all my creative activities, my writing projects, and with my broadcasts.
And I think you're a lot like me, - I think you're a person with many facets and many passions. Just like me, you don't just have ONE thing that you're passionate about, and that's probably why it's been so damned hard for you to find your path in life. You've tried so many things, but most of those things were just you following other people's advice, and they didn't work for you in the long run. You've done what you thought you were "supposed" to do, or what other people said would be wise. But it's only left you feeling overwhelmed and confused.
It's been like that for me for a long time. I came to a point where I just knew that I had to change things in my life and start being ME again, but I didn't know exactly how I could do it. I have to have a livelihood of some sort, and I couldn't quite see how just being me could possibly bring in any money.... So having a job to support myself has been important. But I've known for a long time that I had to at least start moving in the direction of what I truly want, even at the risk of "spreading myself too thin" and making people confused about what I'm all about.
I have decided that I simply can't leave anything out if I want people to know who I truly am. Yes, it may result in some people not liking me (maybe even "hating" me) for it, but I'm OK with that. I don't need everybody to like me. I want to get through to the ones who feel that what I say and do resonate with them. The others can find someone else to follow, or create what THEY want.
So here I am, trying to share my True Self with you, and in that way (hopefully) inspire you to be Your True Self, - flaws and all. We all have flaws, but they're what makes us human AND unique. Nothing to be ashamed of!
First and foremost, I want to inspire, motivate and empower you to create your perfect lifestyle. I won't do that by telling you what to do, but by showing you possibilities and sharing examples for you to copy if you want, whether it's about interior decorating, a healthy lifestyle, beauty and personal grooming, fashion, leisure activities, money, or personal and spiritual growth. I want to share my expertise in various fields (for instance in interior decorating), and also my personal thoughts and experiences related to many different topics. I also want to share with you some practical advice that can help you sort out what might work for you in your life.
By looking through my website you'll discover many sides of me, - even sides I've been hiding for years and feel very vulnerable about showing in public, but which are such a big part of who I am that I can't keep on hiding them if I want to live my life to the fullest and open up for new opportunities in my life. And I do want that! But it's also scary. However: I have to practice what I "preach", so if I'm telling you to be all that you can be, I'd better damn well follow up on that myself, - right? So I've decided that I'll even share the most vulnerable side of me with you, here on my website, and that is my artistic side (I hardly even dare to use that word.... "artistic"... in fear that it will back-fire on me!) - so if you want a glimpse of that, you can take a look HERE ...
SO .... my dear friend:
I hope my website and everything I do with my life will be of value and inspiration to you in some way or other, and I sincerely hope I'll get a chance to get to know you. So if you're a woman: Join my Facebook group, send me a note through my Contact form, or - even better - JOIN MY TRIBE! (If you're a man: Please respect that this is for women only.)
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With love and respect,